A few days ago, Kevin DeYoung asked 40 Question For Christians Now Waving Rainbow Flags. Because I’ve been waving my rainbow flag for the past 5 years, I thought about responding, but the truth is, others have done a fantastic job of that already.
Here’s the thing. I’m out of patience for this. DeYoung asks his 40 questions, but they all boil down to the same thing. Prove that you’re right. Prove that God is on your side. Prove that you deserve what I already have.
I’m tired of it. I’m tired of the assumption that my gay friends are the ones who need to be answering questions. I’m tired of the assumption that they need to justify their faith to those who fancy themselves the gatekeepers of Christianity. I’m tired of the woe are we attitude from those who have been a part of movements to bar LGBTQ people and their allies from leadership positions in the Church, from people whose words have led to legislation imposing jail time, even calling for the execution of gays.
It’s difficult to work up sympathy for hypothetical persecution when these same people have been instrumental in actual persecution of their gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender brothers and sisters.
I want to turn the questions around. But not really – it doesn’t matter. I know what the proof texts are. I know what studies get pulled out time and time again to “prove” that kids are hurt by gay and lesbian parents. I know the slippery slope arguments about pedophilia and polygamy and marrying your family members.
And they know the responses. Why the verses might not be saying what they believe they’re saying. What studies point to kids with gay or lesbian parents being well-adjusted people. The counters to the concerns of pedophilia and incest.
This dance has been going on for a long time, and I think it’s going to continue for a good while longer.
But here’s the question I’ve been afraid to ask of the people who claim to speak for God for a long time.
When are you going to listen to the answers to your questions?
It takes a lot of arrogance to ask people who have been marginalized for much of history to prove that they don’t deserve that marginalization.
It takes a lot of arrogance to require people in loving, consensual relationships to prove that they aren’t like people who prey on the weak and abused.
It takes a lot of arrogance to assume that people who have waited centuries to enjoy the same protections under the law need to “slow down and think about the flag (they’re) flying.”
It takes a lot of arrogance to ask people who live every day with fear of losing their jobs, losing their families, losing their churches to promise that they won’t be mad at people who support laws and practices that encourage those things.
It takes a lot of arrogance to set yourself up as a martyr when your words have caused parents to turn their children out on the street, when your words have driven people to suicide.
My friends don’t have to answer your questions. I don’t have to answer your questions. They’ve been answered, over and over and over again.
If you don’t want to listen to why we’re waving the flag, that’s your business. But until you’re willing to answer why you won’t listen, I’m done answering your questions.